It's important to remember, whether you're in a committed relationship, or you're casually involved with multiple people, all heterosexual sex does not have to lead to vaginal intercourse. There are many ways to have mind-blowing sex without putting a P in a V. Here are 6.
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Getty Images/Goodshoot RF1. Say "I'm not going to have sex with you." Out loud.
Say this when you're making out and things are just starting to heat up. Grab their face, look them right in the eye and tell them that you're not going to have sex with them. Then don't slow down at all. What's implied here is that "everything else" is on the table. Like some wondrous Dionysian buffet.
2. Use your hands
It's amazing what you can do when you commit to just using your hands. Because hand and finger work are generally considered foreplay, we don't often explore the vast range of what our hands alone can do. Namely, we can get a lot more specific about placement, pressure and speed than we can with intercourse or oral. It makes sense, right? We wouldn't use our junk to open a tricky lock or use our mouths to play Jenga. When a task requires subtlety, grace and attention, we use our hands.
3. A touch of fantasy
You don't necessarily even have to dress up as anything (I mean, I'm not going to stop you...), but a little hint of fantasy can imbue non-penetrative sex with all the intensity of "going all the way." For example, try planning a "professional" massage complete with oils, hot towels, new age music, etc. You can even make the guy or girl wait in the living room with a magazine until the bedroom is ready. Once you've sufficiently oiled them up, worked out all the kinks and ushered your partner into a state of deep relaxation — surprise them with a "happy ending" (yes, this works on women, too). The fact that they're already super-stimulated combined with just a taste of the taboo is likely to send them right over the edge.
