There are some questions about men that only a guy can answer. We asked the dudes at guyspeak.com (read more about them here), for their take on this dating conundrum:
Q: I don't like my brother's current girlfriend, and he keeps bringing her to family functions. Should I be upfront and tell him, or should I just let it go?
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Getty Images/PixlandTell him what? That you don't like his girlfriend, or that you don't think she belongs at family functions? Or both?
How about this: Neither.
So you don't like his girlfriend. Does it matter? You aren't dating her, he is. If he likes her and she makes him happy, that should be enough for you. Have you dated guys he didn't like? Probably. Did you care whether or not he approved of them? Probably not. Family acceptance of a girlfriend or boyfriend is nice, but it's not mandatory. Family disapproval leads to resentment, battles and estrangement.
In other words, you will accomplish nothing by pressuring your brother about this woman. Absolutely nothing.
Who among us hasn't brought home a new love interest that made our families cringe? I know I have. Dating is a process, and we have to go through lots of different mates—some right, some wrong—before we figure out the perfect fit for us. Maybe you don't like your brother's girlfriend because you think she's all wrong for him. You care because you love him, and that's great. But you still have to let him figure it out on his own; it's part of the learning process. Chances are they'll break up soon enough, but if you make your disapproval of her obvious, he might keep dating her just to spite you. Also, he'll still resent you for butting into his love life long after the relationship is over.
