Like you said, none of these things is a huge deal on its own. Yes, I'd be annoyed if a friend friended my ex, but it's not a friendship-ender. And it stinks that she was a buzz-kill at your shower, but maybe bridal showers aren't her "thing."
But based on the fact that this friend has been a downer for months now, I think it's clear that she has something going on. Maybe she's bummed that you're getting married while she's single. Maybe she's in a funk about work. Maybe she's freaking out about her finances or worried about a grandparent or one of about a bajillion things is distracting her. Whatever the reason, it would seem that she's not really interested in being your friend right now.
It sounds to me like you should maybe keep your distance until after the wedding, which I assume is fast-approaching. She's acting like she needs some space, so why don't you try giving it to her? After the wedding, ask her to meet for coffee or take a walk with you. If you're really worried about her mental health, you could try helping her track down resources to deal with depression or money problems or whatever. And if she continues to be stand-offish, I think you'll know where you stand. As a rule, a friendship requires two people. But as of right now, it seems like you're the only one trying to participate in this friendship.
Ladies, what do you think? Should Kenzi give her friend some space? Or does her friend need something else right now?
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p.s. I'm taking a little mid-week vacay from tomorrow through Thursday, so I won't be around the blog unless some MAJOR wedding news breaks. (Stay out of Vegas, Kim and Kanye! (Can you IMAGINE?!)) But don't worry, Meredith T. has lots of fun wedding-y stuff planned for when I'm gone!
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