I think your solution here is to take control of your love life the same way you've taken control of all those other areas of your life. Based on your other successes, it seems like when you set your mind to something, you achieve it. With that in mind, take your newfound confidence, and make it a mission to start seeking out guys you want to be more than friendly with. You don't have to start throwing yourself every hottie you pass on the street or anything, but make it a goal to at least start consciously noticing guys you're attracted to and trying to put yourself out there to them. Strike up a conversation with a guy who catches your eye at a coffee shop, or send a message to someone via an online dating site. I can't say you'll never get rejected, but I'm certain you'll also find a lot of guys who want more than your friendship. Once you've broken your habit of sending them packing, you'll be able to focus on the qualities that make a guy boyfriend material to you and finding a man who has those qualities.
And while I hope you'll go out and have fun, I don't mean to turn you into some crazy gal who constantly seeks male attention, or values herself by it. Remember that it is possible that you've been relegating guys to your "Friend Zone" simply for the reason that these guys you've met haven't been the guy for you. Not to get all "You can't hurry love" on you but well, you can't. If you just aren't meeting any guys you're really into, appreciate your male friends for what they are and know that some day soon, the right guy will come alone and burn right through your "Friend Zone" defense.
Does anyone else do a similar "friending" defense to protect themselves? How do you overcome it? Any other advice for our readers?
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5 Tips for Staying Out of the Friend Zone
Have You Ever Been Stuck In The "Friend Zone"?
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