Oh boy. I've got a feeling you dolls will have a lot to say about this reader's dating dilemma. Her boyfriend decided to break up with her…
Writes our anonymous reader:
My boyfriend recently broke up with me, because he said he didn't want a girlfriend right now, and he had to make himself happy first, which I completely understand. I'm still sad, but I want him to be happy. Then he told me he was still in love with me and would want to get back together when he sorts everything out. Do couples ever break up and get back together and it actually works out in the long run? And am I stupid to wait for him?
And now for my two cents:
Thanks for reaching out, dear.
So often with reader dilemmas, we try to look at the situation from several different points of view: the reader writing in, the boyfriend, the dramatic family members. But in this case, we'll focus on you.
The answer to your dilemma is simple and I suspect you already know what to do: don't wait for him. While he's figuring out what makes him happy—focusing on his career, getting in shape, underwater basketweaving or whatever—do the things that make you happy. Focus on the things that bring you joy: spending time with your family and friends, joining a new club, reading, crafting, discovering new music or anything really.
He's decided to take time off from your relationship and he'll decide later if he's like to be in a relationship with you again? Um, no. You're not a piece of merchandise that can be placed on the hold shelf of a store's back room. If he wants to be with you right now, lovely. But you don't need to put your life—romantic and otherwise—on hold while he figures out his.
